He’ll text you a sweet “good night” message just before you go to sleep – so he’s the last thing you think about. He claims he’s a repelling expert, with hair-raising stories to boot.
He may even be so clever as to learn your work schedule through conversation, and text you the moment you get home. He may even drag you into all-night texting sessions. You mention you’ve taken some photography classes, and he announces he’s an expert photographer with ,000 worth of camera equipment. Rule of thumb is if he sounds too good to be true – if every one of your interests seem to mesh so perfectly into his – it’s probably not true. Some core interests may align, but not usually all. Yet, I still won’t claim I know everything women want. I am not proud of the games I used to play online in my younger years, just to get a date.
But there is one guy who I am interested in who seems to not fit that mold. He takes hours to answer a text message when we all KNOW that our phones are glued to our face.
I don’t understand…we will be texting back and forth for a few, then nothing…air silence! I would say that we guys prefer text because it makes it easier to avoid talking to someone when we don’t feel like it.
Once considered a realm inhabited only by the socially awkward, online dating is now just another tool in the toolbox, no matter whether you’re looking for a hook-up or your soulmate....: Most guys absolutely suck at sexual innuendos. A player will think you’ve taken the bait, and may get a lot less subtle. There’s nothing wrong with online dating, but there’s no place for naivety when you’re opening your heart to a stranger.
Ok, I am confused…I thought guys were totally into the text versus actually talking on the phone.
However, I found when I introduced myself to a girl online, and they got to know my personality first, the first date would go smoothly.
Unfortunately, through a combination of hormones and immaturity, I learned to perfect this system into one where I could convince nearly any girl at all – from the shy bookworm to the bubbly cheerleader – to become fascinated enough with my persona that they would go on a date with me Now, over twenty years later, I’m going to spill the beans on the tried and true tricks that guys still use online today.
In a chat room or in IM, a guy can think for several minutes before typing a reply. He can look up romantic lines from a movie, or very obscure, romantic poems to quote from.
He can become as funny as Eddie Murphy high on speed, while in reality he might be about as humorous as a liver transplant.
Rather, I’m recommending that you change how you think about things and, therefore, the needy behaviors and ways of acting naturally disappear. It’s believing that you “need” the other person to act a certain way, be a certain way, do specific things or say specific things… There’s nothing wrong with having a preference for what you want and only settling for what you want. The problem with the needy mindset is that when you’re not getting what you want, you have a strong negative reaction because you think of his specific behavior as something you “need” in order to be OK… So bear in mind that this response to you is from the context that you’ve repeatedly brought this up as an issue and there’s been no change in his behavior.