We love each other and are faithful to each other, so I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having sex before we get married.” “Isn’t it a good idea to see if we’re sexually compatible before we get married?
” “Don’t make sex before marriage into such a big deal—everyone does it.” “I’m not going to let other people make me feel guilty just because I don’t buy into their value system.” Have you ever thought or said things like this? Most people, at least in some circumstances, think premarital sex is okay.
Im not talking about conflicts between me and the girls Ive dated. And based on my experiences and my exploration of Gods Word, Ive concluded that for Christians dating is a swerver a set of values and attitudes that wants to go in a direction different from the one God has mapped out for us. Self-control isn't enough I once heard a youth minister speak on the topic of love and sex. rending story about Eric and Jenny, two strong Christians who had actively participated in his youth group years earlier. But as time went by, their physical relationship slowly began to accelerate, and they wound up sleeping together.
Eric and Jennys dating relationship had started out innocently? Soon afterward they broke up, discouraged and hurt. But both came to him separately and expressed emotional trauma and guilt over past memories. Some of us had made the same mistake or watched it happen in the lives of our friends. We wanted the pastor to tell us what we were supposed to do instead.
We want to stay on the straight and narrow path and serve God, yet we continue a practice that often pull us in the wrong direction.
Defective dating Dating has built-in problems, and if we continue to date according to the system as it is today, well more than likely swerve into trouble.
But God, in the Bible, doesn’t avoid the topic of sex or say that it is bad.
Instead, God has a positive view of sex and also specific guidelines about how to express your sexuality. Dating leads to intimacy but not necessarily commitment. It often mistakes a physical relationship for love.
It creates an artificial environment for evaluating another person’s character.
Like many dating relationships, Jayme and Troys became intimate with little or no thought about commitment or how either of them would be affected when it ended.
We can blame Troy for being a jerk, but lets ask ourselves a question.
Despite the narrow aisles and glass shelves laden with delicate dishes, this person is expected to navigate the rows with a cart known to go off course? Yet this is exactly what we try in many of our relationships.
We see the failed attempts around us, but we refuse to replace this cart called dating.
) The shopper who has chosen a swerving cart can have no peace.