Some, like me, are frustrated by the dating apps and sites, by the meat market bars and false starts. Adelle may have gotten us to this point, but after this, it’s all on us.
Through the process, she’d become close with her matchmaker. ” We hug and she walks down Melrose into the sunset. In the end, I got about as many dates out of each, really.It’s all like Goldilocks: this one is too flighty, this one isn’t funny enough. Over the sound of the cappuccino maker and the uptalk and vocal fry of the teenagers at the next table, my date, “B.,” and I get to know each other. “Blind dates, online, mixers.” But nothing was really working.She’s looking for “just right.” Knowing that someone is out there, looking out for you, gives you a kind of swagger. And anyone who’s been on Tinder for more than three minutes can tell you, it is not great for one’s sense of self-worth. After every conversation, I felt a little better about myself, about my options. A friend suggested TDR to her to get her out of the bubble of single life. “Sunday night is the toughest night for singles,” Adelle says, “The weekend’s over, the work week is starting and you’re back where you started.” During a Sunday night conversation, Adelle’s matchmaker hit her with an epiphany that really resonated: the only person who really knows what you’re looking for is you.Her history in marketing and communications helps, but it’s not like there’s a career path that leads to “matchmaker.” It’s about making the client comfortable, getting them to open up, listening to their needs. Like a sensible LA dater, I’ve made plans with friends after. I talked it over with Adelle and she helpfully relayed the message to B. People don’t think too much about what they want, so the matchmaker helps them get there. That said, this isn’t your standard blind date/hook-up app situation: I haven’t met this woman before, I didn’t swipe right on her, and we don’t have any friends in common. That sounds both impressive and horrifying, but it’s true. I’ve lived in LA, on and off, for about four years now. I download them all, do a whole lot of swiping and... My thumbs get plenty of exercise, but not much more.